Step two, learn why they're there. This is the hard part.
Step three, let them out on a daily basis, or else they'll consume you.
Step four, aim for the positive and keep working on it.
Step five, get distance.
Step six, keep an open mind.
Step seven, improvise
Step eight, act, the longer you wait the decisions the harder they become - consider option, pros and cons, then act.
Step nine, keep going. Hang in there.